Our individual point-of-view is like a fingerprint.
It’s unique to us.
There are huge common groupings, yet no one sees through our eyes but us.
The built-in perspective of our point-of-view is always pointing our way to what we feel is a desirable personal outcome.
It’s just human nature or the nature of any living thing.
It defines who we are. It leads us into actions. When we think circumstances are favorable it gives us hope and enjoyment…
but here’s the catch…
When we think circumstances aren’t so good our dearly held point-of view can be like a boat anchor.
It can drag us down. Maybe into the whole “spiral into darkness” thing.
But wait.
We’re human and that gives us some unique abilities if we want to develop them.
One is that we can, through effort and practice, change or expand our point -of-view.
This is good news. We don’t have to be locked in.
When we find ourselves dramatizing, awfulizing, and convincingly characterizing a person, or situation, in an intensely believable way so much so that we are completely exhausted and discouraged, we can remember we have options.
We need to work on our point-of view.
So, what is a first step?
Let’s take some time each day and notice our thinking without necessarily believing it.
To really challenge our insistence to hang on to how we see things currently.
We can consider an entirely opposite point of view not so much to change our mind, just to find some understanding for why others might see things the way they do.
Our brains love to chew their same flavor of gum. To keep writing the same story.
It is not easy giving up the comfort of our brain’s familiar point of view which so often is just habitual brain chatter.
It is rather scary at the start, yet we really can unlock a lot of doors personally if we take a brave step and see beyond our box.
Have an expansive week.
It’s unique to us.
There are huge common groupings, yet no one sees through our eyes but us.
The built-in perspective of our point-of-view is always pointing our way to what we feel is a desirable personal outcome.
It’s just human nature or the nature of any living thing.
It defines who we are. It leads us into actions. When we think circumstances are favorable it gives us hope and enjoyment…
but here’s the catch…
When we think circumstances aren’t so good our dearly held point-of view can be like a boat anchor.
It can drag us down. Maybe into the whole “spiral into darkness” thing.
But wait.
We’re human and that gives us some unique abilities if we want to develop them.
One is that we can, through effort and practice, change or expand our point -of-view.
This is good news. We don’t have to be locked in.
When we find ourselves dramatizing, awfulizing, and convincingly characterizing a person, or situation, in an intensely believable way so much so that we are completely exhausted and discouraged, we can remember we have options.
We need to work on our point-of view.
So, what is a first step?
Let’s take some time each day and notice our thinking without necessarily believing it.
To really challenge our insistence to hang on to how we see things currently.
We can consider an entirely opposite point of view not so much to change our mind, just to find some understanding for why others might see things the way they do.
Our brains love to chew their same flavor of gum. To keep writing the same story.
It is not easy giving up the comfort of our brain’s familiar point of view which so often is just habitual brain chatter.
It is rather scary at the start, yet we really can unlock a lot of doors personally if we take a brave step and see beyond our box.
Have an expansive week.