[et_pb_section fb_built=”1″ _builder_version=”3.0.47″][et_pb_row _builder_version=”3.0.47″ background_size=”initial” background_position=”top_left” background_repeat=”repeat”][et_pb_column type=”4_4″ _builder_version=”3.0.47″ parallax=”off” parallax_method=”on”][et_pb_image src=”http:\/\/merrimanmanagementsupport.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/10\/Publication1-3.jpg” _builder_version=”3.0.101″ max_width=”37%”][\/et_pb_image][et_pb_text _builder_version=”3.0.101″ background_size=”initial” background_position=”top_left” background_repeat=”repeat” text_font=”||||||||” text_font_size=”18px”]Ever been in a situation where a peer co-worker frequently comes to you to hard-core complain about somebody else?<\/p>\n
I mean real emotional complaining, blaming, accusing, defaming etc.<\/p>\n
These can be tricky moments for any listener.<\/p>\n
So this is a good time to engage our listening tools.<\/p>\n
We can ask clarifying questions that bring greater accuracy and perspective. We can stay steady and make sure we don’t commiserate or appease.<\/p>\n
But what if it doesn’t let up?<\/p>\n
Well, for me there comes a time when enough is enough.<\/p>\n
I just won’t listen to any more.<\/p>\n
I’ll say something like, “Hold up for a sec, are you interested in exploring ways you could feel better? I am here for you, but I really can’t listen to any more complaining about _______.”<\/p>\n
Or if that doesn’t do it, then I’ll say something like, “Hey, I can’t really listen to anymore, I hope you feel better soon.” And change the topic somehow.<\/p>\n
Often it’s the best thing we can do in that moment.<\/p>\n
It’s not doing them or us any good hanging out in that space.<\/p>\n
There’s a better place to be and let’s all meet up there.
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Ever been in a situation where a peer co-worker frequently comes to you to hard-core complain about somebody else? I mean real emotional complaining, blaming, accusing, defaming etc. These can be tricky moments for any listener. So this is a good time to engage our listening tools. We can ask clarifying questions that bring greater […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":476,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"on","_et_pb_old_content":"
Ever been in a situation where a peer co-worker frequently comes to you to hard-core complain about somebody else?<\/p>
I mean real emotional complaining, blaming, accusing, defaming etc.<\/p>
These can be tricky moments for any listener.<\/p>
So this is a good time to engage our listening tools.<\/p>
We can ask clarifying questions that bring greater accuracy and perspective. We can stay steady and make sure we don't commiserate or appease.<\/p>
But what if it doesn't let up?<\/p>
Well, for me there comes a time when enough is enough.<\/p>
I just won't listen to any more.<\/p>
I'll say something like, \"Hold up for a sec, are you interested in exploring ways you could feel better? I am here for you, but I really can't listen to any more complaining about _______.\"<\/p>
Or if that doesn't do it, then I'll say something like, \"Hey, I can't really listen to anymore, I hope you feel better soon.\" And change the topic somehow.<\/p>
Often it's the best thing we can do in that moment.<\/p>
It's not doing them or us any good hanging out in that space.<\/p>
There's a better place to be and let's all meet up there.<\/p>","_et_gb_content_width":"","footnotes":""},"project_category":[3],"project_tag":[],"class_list":["post-475","project","type-project","status-publish","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","project_category-m2m"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/merrimanmanagementsupport.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/project\/475","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/merrimanmanagementsupport.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/project"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/merrimanmanagementsupport.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/project"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/merrimanmanagementsupport.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/merrimanmanagementsupport.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=475"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"http:\/\/merrimanmanagementsupport.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/project\/475\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":479,"href":"http:\/\/merrimanmanagementsupport.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/project\/475\/revisions\/479"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/merrimanmanagementsupport.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/476"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/merrimanmanagementsupport.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=475"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"project_category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/merrimanmanagementsupport.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/project_category?post=475"},{"taxonomy":"project_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/merrimanmanagementsupport.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/project_tag?post=475"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}