{"id":309,"date":"2018-05-17T20:02:13","date_gmt":"2018-05-17T20:02:13","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/merrimanmanagementsupport.com\/?post_type=project&#038;p=309"},"modified":"2018-07-23T17:18:37","modified_gmt":"2018-07-23T17:18:37","slug":"5-14-feeling-resentful","status":"publish","type":"project","link":"http:\/\/merrimanmanagementsupport.com\/index.php\/project\/5-14-feeling-resentful\/","title":{"rendered":"May 14th &#8211; Feeling Resentful?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>[et_pb_section fb_built=&#8221;1&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;3.0.47&#8243;][et_pb_row _builder_version=&#8221;3.0.47&#8243; background_size=&#8221;initial&#8221; background_position=&#8221;top_left&#8221; background_repeat=&#8221;repeat&#8221;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;4_4&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;3.0.47&#8243; parallax=&#8221;off&#8221; parallax_method=&#8221;on&#8221;][et_pb_image src=&#8221;http:\/\/merrimanmanagementsupport.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/05\/Publication1.jpg&#8221; _builder_version=&#8221;3.0.101&#8243; max_width=&#8221;41%&#8221;][\/et_pb_image][et_pb_text _builder_version=&#8221;3.0.101&#8243; background_size=&#8221;initial&#8221; background_position=&#8221;top_left&#8221; background_repeat=&#8221;repeat&#8221; header_font=&#8221;||||||||&#8221; header_font_size=&#8221;50px&#8221;]<\/p>\n<p>Feeling resentful?<\/p>\n<p>Trapped in some employee situation where you feel powerless?<\/p>\n<p>Twisting in the wind, feeling down and out, and not wanting to admit it?<\/p>\n<p>Welcome to the club.<\/p>\n<p>And I suggest we be willing to admit it.<\/p>\n<p>If we don&#8217;t admit it we&#8217;re just clamping down the lid and feeding the fire.<\/p>\n<p>Being resentful happens, we&#8217;re not wrong, no judgement, we&#8217;re human.<\/p>\n<p>OK, let&#8217;s move forward. Here are three things to consider when feeling resentful.<\/p>\n<p>First, the step-children of resentfulness are complaining and blaming.<\/p>\n<p>Let&#8217;s make sure we have not slipped into those behaviors.<\/p>\n<p>Next, resentfulness is supposed to feel bad. It&#8217;s a signal&#8211;a warning sign.<\/p>\n<p>It tells us we&#8217;re losing self-regard and not living by our truth.<\/p>\n<p>Finally, when managing people, resentfulness tells us that there was a boundary line that was not set. That there was a conversation that didn&#8217;t happen. That we allowed ourselves to get distracted with upset instead of focusing on our personal skill building.<\/p>\n<p>Sorry, this is on us.<\/p>\n<p>Let&#8217;s move forward with those conversations. Set those boundary lines, and take the time to build our skills. With every little step we take, we&#8217;ll feel better.<\/p>\n<p>Any little step of action is better than ignoring, avoiding and feeling captive.<\/p>\n<p>Resentfulness is a mighty indicator. Can we be alert to it?<\/p>\n<p>Yes, we can.<\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;m sure of it.<\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][\/et_pb_section]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Feeling resentful? Trapped in some employee situation where you feel powerless? Twisting in the wind, feeling down and out, and not wanting to admit it? Welcome to the club. And I suggest we be willing to admit it. If we don&#8217;t admit it we&#8217;re just clamping down the lid and feeding the fire. Being resentful [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":310,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"on","_et_pb_old_content":"<p>Feeling resentful? <br \/> <br \/>Trapped in some employee situation where you feel powerless? <br \/> <br \/>Twisting in the wind, feeling down and out, and not wanting to admit it?<br \/> <br \/>Welcome to the club.<br \/> <br \/>And I suggest we be willing to admit it.<br \/> <br \/>If we don't admit it we're just clamping down the lid and feeding the fire.<br \/> <br \/>Being resentful happens, we're not wrong, no judgement, we're human. <br \/> <br \/>OK, let's move forward. Here are three things to consider when feeling resentful.<br \/> <br \/>First, the step-children of resentfulness are complaining and blaming. <br \/> <br \/>Let's make sure we have not slipped into those behaviors.<br \/> <br \/>Next, resentfulness is supposed to feel bad. It's a signal--a warning sign.<br \/> <br \/>It tells us we're loosing self-regard and not living by our truth.<br \/> <br \/>Finally, when managing people, resentfulness tells us that there was a boundary line that was not set. That there was a conversation that didn't happen. That we allowed ourselves to get distracted with upset instead of focusing on our personal skill building.<br \/> <br \/>Sorry, this is on us.<br \/> <br \/>Let's move forward with those conversations. Set those boundary lines, and take the time to build our skills. With every little step we take, we'll feel better.<br \/> <br \/>Any little step of action is better than ignoring, avoiding and feeling captive.<br \/> <br \/>Resentfulness is a mighty indicator. Can we be alert to it?<br \/> <br \/>Yes, we can.<br \/> <br \/>I'm sure of it.<\/p>","_et_gb_content_width":"","footnotes":""},"project_category":[3],"project_tag":[],"class_list":["post-309","project","type-project","status-publish","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","project_category-m2m"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/merrimanmanagementsupport.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/project\/309","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/merrimanmanagementsupport.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/project"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/merrimanmanagementsupport.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/project"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/merrimanmanagementsupport.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/merrimanmanagementsupport.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=309"}],"version-history":[{"count":5,"href":"http:\/\/merrimanmanagementsupport.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/project\/309\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":393,"href":"http:\/\/merrimanmanagementsupport.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/project\/309\/revisions\/393"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/merrimanmanagementsupport.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/310"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/merrimanmanagementsupport.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=309"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"project_category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/merrimanmanagementsupport.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/project_category?post=309"},{"taxonomy":"project_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/merrimanmanagementsupport.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/project_tag?post=309"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}