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What’s\u00a0the deal with emotions at work? As a manager should I show my emotions? Should I keep it all chill?\u00a0 Just button it all up?<\/em> <\/p>\n <\/p>\n Let’s say, for the sake of discussion,\u00a0that emotions can be divided into 2 parts: push emotions and pull emotions. <\/p>\n <\/p>\n Now, what we call\u00a0pull emotions<\/em>\u00a0are ones that\u00a0always treat a staff member with respect and regard no matter what emotional turbulence\u00a0we may be experiencing. They always\u00a0express positivity<\/strong>\u00a0toward a staff member for something that they’ve done.\u00a0\u00a0“I love this end aisle.”\u00a0 “Thanks, that really made my day.”\u00a0 “Great job on this\u00a0display\u00a0– it made everyone smile.”\u00a0 “It’s a pleasure to see such great\u00a0teamwork!”\u00a0\u00a0<\/em>Now these emotions are not open ended.\u00a0 They point to something that was done and\u00a0pull\u00a0<\/strong>staff forward to do more of it.\u00a0 They imply a path of guidance forward\u00a0that points to the\u00a0good work\u00a0we are seeking\u00a0and focuses\u00a0energy in positive and productive ways.\u00a0<\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n \u00a0You are pulling forward the best they have to offer, not pushing them forward without direction.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n So, should I\u00a0express\u00a0emotions at work? <\/p>\n <\/p>\n Those “push emotions” – no.\u00a0 Manage yourself and find ways to deal with\u00a0your negative emotions\u00a0in neutral, safe places.\u00a0 Replace\u00a0expressing them\u00a0with solid management skills.\u00a0We can always make our way to a neutralized\u00a0place of grace as we lead with providing clarity.\u00a0 \u00a0<\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n \u00a0 <\/p>\n <\/p>\n Learning to work with our emotions is a critical managerial\u00a0skill\u00a0and staff deserve to know they mattered enough for us to make the effort.\u00a0\u00a0 [\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][\/et_pb_section]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" What’s\u00a0the deal with emotions at work? As a manager should I show my emotions? Should I keep it all chill?\u00a0 Just button it all up?Here’s what I think. Let’s say, for the sake of discussion,\u00a0that emotions can be divided into 2 parts: push emotions and pull emotions.Let’s call\u00a0push emotions\u00a0ones that\u00a0express negativity\u00a0toward a staff member for […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":1948,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"on","_et_pb_old_content":"\n What's\u00a0the deal with emotions at work? As a manager should I show my emotions? Should I keep it all chill?\u00a0 Just button it all up?<\/em> \u00a0
Here’s what I think.<\/p>\n
Let’s call\u00a0push emotions<\/em>\u00a0ones that\u00a0express negativity<\/strong>\u00a0toward a staff member for something that they’ve done.\u00a0\u00a0“I’m really disappointed\u00a0in you!”\u00a0 “I’m\u00a0so\u00a0frustrated!”\u00a0 “How could you mess up like this?”\u00a0 “What were you thinking, we talked about this”.\u00a0\u00a0<\/em>These emotions push away the employee, make them feel bad and imply that the way to get back in our good graces is to\u00a0change\u00a0their\u00a0behavior\u00a0in order to not upset us.\u00a0As a manager at work, these\u00a0kinds of\u00a0emotional expressions\u00a0end up being\u00a0controlling, manipulative and\u00a0dispiriting. These “push emotions” give no guidance or direction.\u00a0They\u00a0don’t\u00a0provide an employee with clarity on what to do.<\/p>\n
Yes and no.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n
Those “pull emotions” – yes.\u00a0 Pull your staff forward with your excitement\u00a0and exuberance of their good efforts and teamwork.\u00a0 Point the way forward with well-placed acknowledgement and\u00a0appreciation\u00a0letting them know that we’re all pulling for the same goals.\u00a0<\/p>\n
Be full of heart and strong in spirit,<\/p>\n
Here's what I think.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Let's say, for the sake of discussion,\u00a0that emotions can be divided into 2 parts: push emotions and pull emotions.
Let's call\u00a0push emotions<\/em>\u00a0ones that\u00a0express negativity<\/strong>\u00a0toward a staff member for something that they've done.\u00a0\u00a0\"I'm really disappointed\u00a0in you!\"\u00a0 \"I'm\u00a0so\u00a0frustrated!\"\u00a0 \"How could you mess up like this?\"\u00a0 \"What were you thinking, we talked about this\".\u00a0\u00a0<\/em>These emotions push away the employee, make them feel bad and imply that the way to get back in our good graces is to\u00a0change\u00a0their\u00a0behavior\u00a0in order to not upset us.\u00a0As a manager at work, these\u00a0kinds of\u00a0emotional expressions\u00a0end up being\u00a0controlling, manipulative and\u00a0dispiriting. These \"push emotions\" give no guidance or direction.\u00a0They\u00a0don't\u00a0provide an employee with clarity on what to do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Now, what we call\u00a0pull emotions<\/em>\u00a0are ones that\u00a0always treat a staff member with respect and regard no matter what emotional turbulence\u00a0we may be experiencing. They always\u00a0express positivity<\/strong>\u00a0toward a staff member for something that they've done.\u00a0\u00a0\"I love this end aisle.\"\u00a0 \"Thanks, that really made my day.\"\u00a0 \"Great job on this\u00a0display\u00a0- it made everyone smile.\"\u00a0 \"It's a pleasure to see such great\u00a0teamwork!\"\u00a0\u00a0<\/em>Now these emotions are not open ended.\u00a0 They point to something that was done and\u00a0pull\u00a0<\/strong>staff forward to do more of it.\u00a0 They imply a path of guidance forward\u00a0that points to the\u00a0good work\u00a0we are seeking\u00a0and focuses\u00a0energy in positive and productive ways.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u00a0You are pulling forward the best they have to offer, not pushing them forward without direction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
So, should I\u00a0express\u00a0emotions at work?
Yes and no.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Those \"push emotions\" - no.\u00a0 Manage yourself and find ways to deal with\u00a0your negative emotions\u00a0in neutral, safe places.\u00a0 Replace\u00a0expressing them\u00a0with solid management skills.\u00a0We can always make our way to a neutralized\u00a0place of grace as we lead with providing clarity.\u00a0 \u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Those \"pull emotions'' - yes.\u00a0 Pull your staff forward with your excitement\u00a0and exuberance of their good efforts and teamwork.\u00a0 Point the way forward with well-placed acknowledgement and\u00a0appreciation\u00a0letting them know that we're all pulling for the same goals.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Learning to work with our emotions is a critical managerial\u00a0skill\u00a0and staff deserve to know they mattered enough for us to make the effort.\u00a0\u00a0
Be full of heart and strong in spirit,<\/p>\n","_et_gb_content_width":"","footnotes":""},"project_category":[3],"project_tag":[],"class_list":["post-1946","project","type-project","status-publish","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","project_category-m2m"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/merrimanmanagementsupport.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/project\/1946","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/merrimanmanagementsupport.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/project"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/merrimanmanagementsupport.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/project"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/merrimanmanagementsupport.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/merrimanmanagementsupport.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1946"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"http:\/\/merrimanmanagementsupport.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/project\/1946\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1950,"href":"http:\/\/merrimanmanagementsupport.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/project\/1946\/revisions\/1950"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/merrimanmanagementsupport.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1948"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/merrimanmanagementsupport.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1946"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"project_category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/merrimanmanagementsupport.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/project_category?post=1946"},{"taxonomy":"project_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/merrimanmanagementsupport.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/project_tag?post=1946"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}